istock_000005697028smallStephanie Goldman-Levich, Co-Founder of Family Creations, LLC was asked to share her thoughts regarding one of the hot topics this year at ASRM’s annual conference – Open egg and sperm donation vs. anonymous donation. Read more about her thoughts below in blog written by Dawn Davenport, with Creating a Family:

To Know or Not to Know: Using Identified or Anonymous Egg or Sperm Donors

Deciding whether to use a known donor, a donor that agrees to release identifying information, or completely anonymous sperm or egg donor is a hot topic in infertility circles nowadays.  The American Society of Reproductive Medicine (ASRM) Conference had a great session on this, and the panel has agreed to recreate the session by appearing on the Creating a Family show. (We’re booked solid until mid January, so it will be after that).  So many issues are involved with this topic—both on the personal level of patients facing this decision and on a policy level.  The issue is front and center right now because of the recent release of “My Daddy’s Name is Donor” a report by the Institute for American Values (I hate that title since donors are many things, but absolutely are not daddies.); Test Tube Families: Why the Fertility Market Needs Legal Regulation, a book by Naomi Cahn; Eggsploitation, a documentary by The Center for Bioethics and Culture;  and the recent spate of movies that touch on this subject (The Kids Are All Right and The Switch).   The Donor Sibling Registry has long encouraged use of identified donors.

On a personal level potential parents have to consider their needs, and their future child’s needs in the short term and also when they become an adult.  Will the child want to know who they look like, will they want to contact the donor someday to get an updated medical history?  Parents have to balance their need for “just being a normal family” and their desire to not complicate their child’s life with their child’s possible future desire or need for genetic information.  They have to decide whose information this really is—theirs or the child’s.  They are deciding all of this in the midst of one of the most stressful times in their life and before the potential child is even born.  And those are just the rational considerations.  There isn’t enough room to list the irrational, but real, thoughts that run through potential parents’ minds when making this decision.  I should add that there is precious little long term research to guide their decision.

On the policy level, many are pushing for the government to get more involved.  They reason that that’s the job of the government—to step in and regulate for our better good.   Eleven countries already ban anonymous gamete donation because they believe it is not in the best interest of the child, the donor, or the parents.  They argue that anonymous egg and sperm donation is encouraged by the “infertility industry” since it is easier and cheaper to administer.  But does requiring the release of identifying information reduce the number of people who are willing to donate their egg and sperm.  Should donors and prospective parents have the right to choose?  While it is possible to ban anonymous donation, governments can’t require that parents tell their children.  If a child doesn’t know they were conceived with donor sperm or egg, identity information is of little use.

I’m going to save the more in depth discussion of whether we should ban anonymous gamete donation for the Creating a Family show we will do, but I wanted to share some information I learned about on this topic at the conference.  I spoke with Dr. Michelle Ottey, with Fairfax Cryobank and Cryogenic Laboratories about this issue.  She told me that they had conducted an online survey of their clients in 2008 to learn more about what they wanted.  They had a 99% response rate, with about 34% of respondents in a heterosexual relationship, 29% in a homosexual relationship, 28% were heterosexual singles, with the rest identifying with some other category.

They found that over 60% of the heterosexual couples preferred anonymous donation, 45% for heterosexual singles, and 50% for homosexual couples.  About forty percent of the heterosexual couples and homosexual couples that chose an anonymous sperm donor said that anonymity was an important factor in choosing a donor, compared to just 20% of heterosexual singles.

Sixty-eight percent of respondents said they are not interested in seeking out half siblings by the same donor.  Fairfax thought there might still be a need for a safe place to make this contact, so they set up an online forum on their site.  These forums have been a great success, and subgroups have formed around individual donors.  Perhaps there is more interest if the opportunity exists in a secure environment.

Dr. Ottey did not tell me the number of respondents, and this survey has not been peered review, but it is a snapshot of what people using sperm donation prefer.  This confirms what I hear from our audience.  From my discussions with couples choosing egg donation and from Marna Gatlin over at Parents Via Egg Donation, a wonderful support group, about half of the couples choosing egg donation prefer to use an anonymous donor.

I also had an interesting discussion with Stephanie Goldman-Levich, Co-Founder of Family Creations, an international egg donor and surrogate agency that facilitates anonymous, semi-open, and fully open egg donor arrangements.  She is also an adult adoptee in a closed adoption.  As you might imagine, she has thought about this issue a lot from both a personal and professional standpoint.  I asked her to share her thoughts.

“At the time I was born, my parents hadn’t thought to request photos of my biological mother, or gather any genetic information to save for me when I got older.  (They later went on to adopt my sister and brother and realized that would be nice information to have and therefore requested it from each of their biological mothers.)  So while my parents were always very open with me about my conception, they didn’t have anything to share with me other than the story of my adoption.  I didn’t think twice about this until I was in my early teens.  The main thought that entered my mind around that time was “I wonder if I look like my biological mother!”  As a young teenager, a simple photograph would have easily satisfied that curiosity.  Moving into my high school years I also began wondering more about genetics.  We learned about genetic diseases in health and biology classes, and it occurred to me that my family history was a blank slate. Doctor’s would ask in my yearly physical’s if I had a history of diabetes, cancer, heart disease, etc.  All I could respond with was ‘I’m not sure.  I’m adopted.’

Transitioning into egg donation, our program provides recipients with photographs of each egg donor, including a detailed profile which includes personal information and genetic information about the donor, and the donor’s family members.  Recipient parents looking for an egg donor get to view this information prior to selecting a donor.  This information is available to print, save, and provide to children (when parents deem it is appropriate) at any time in the future.  In fact, our agency will very soon be providing recipients with a CD that includes all of their donor’s information so that they can share it with their offspring later on down the line if they choose to.  While the profiles do not have the donor’s last name, date of birth, social security number, etc, (and therefore these would still be considered anonymous egg donation cycles), the profile would provide the child with photographs, personal information, and genetic history of their egg donor.  Being adopted, this is the exact same information that I had wanted growing up.  …

… I am completely against [the government banning anonymous donation] and think this idea would bring way more harm than good to our reproductive community.…I have many clients that come to me in their search for a donor very concerned about confidentiality.  They are only interested in an anonymous donation because due to their family’s cultural or religious beliefs, their family will not accept, and will not love any child that is born as a result of egg donation.  While anyone can hear this and say it is wrong and unjust – this is their reality.  …

In summation, as an adult adoptee and the owner of an egg donor program that facilitates both anonymous and open egg donation cycles, I believe that the right to choose is key.  I do believe that every person has the inherent right to know their genetic background.  (And I am happy that I was able to obtain information later on in life.)  But the important thing to remember is that we are still able to provide offspring with the information they desire (satisfying the same curiosities I had) through anonymous egg donation cycles.”

Food for thought; what do you think?

Access the blog here: http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/infertility-fertility-trying-to-conceive-ivf-donor-egg/identified-anonymous-egg-sperm-donors/

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Family Creations is back from ASRM!

by Admin on October 29, 2010

ASRM taking over the Denver Convention Center

Co-Founders of Family Creations, Stephanie Goldman-Levich and Julia Alkire are getting settled back in after an incredible trip to Denver where they attended the American Society for Reproductive Medicine’s (ASRM) annual conference.

Some highlights of the conference included a post-graduate course about third party reproduction, a debate about open vs. closed gamete donation, visiting with colleagues from around the country, and the inaugural run/walk for reproductive health!  Even though it called for a 4:30am wake up call Julia states: “The crisp morning Denver air and the opportunity to raise money for ASRM made it very worth it!”

They left feeling inspired, and grateful to work in such an incredible field.  They look forward to ASRM next year!

Julia Alkire & Stephanie Goldman-Levich at ASRM's run/walk for reproductive health

Downtown Denver

Stephanie Goldman-Levich & Julia Alkire at ASRM

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The REAL World of Egg Donation

by Admin on October 15, 2010

The REAL World of Egg Donation – By Stephanie Goldman-Levich

A couple of weeks ago, in a show that many would call a “guilty pleasure” a storyline about egg donation was introduced.  First, I will blame the love that I have for this show on being a child of the 80’s.  I think it would be very hard to find many young women my age who don’t know the names Brandon Walsh and Dylan McKay.  If these names do not conjure up memories of the Peach Pit or West Beverly High School, then I should fill you in that this guilty pleasure I refer to is the classic – Beverly Hills 90210.  Two years ago, a new version of 90210 was created which is the show I have been (until now) secretly watching since its inception.

Before I explain my issues with the past two episodes, let me start by saying that I am a fan of the show.  I enjoy watching the weekly drama unfold and while some of the storylines are predictable, the acting is actually quite good and it’s enough to keep me tuning in week after week.  With that said…

Last week, I was very excited to see a new storyline introduced about egg donation.  For those of you who don’t watch the show, a main character named Annie (played by Shenae Grimes) was approached by her boss asking Annie to donate her eggs to her and her husband who cannot conceive otherwise.  Well, actually she asked to “buy her eggs” which according to a Federal Law called The National Organ Transplant Act – is illegal.  This was my first issue with the show.  But, I thought – this will be corrected.  The character shouldn’t know the laws surrounding egg donation, so surely the writers will correct this later on.  (I’ll spare you the anticipation and tell you that the writers made no attempts to correct this and proceeded to use the words “selling my eggs” and “buying her eggs” throughout the entire storyline.)  Moving on… Annie’s boss proceeds to explain that she is prepared to pay Annie $20,000.  My second issue.

In the REAL world of egg donation, egg donors are compensated for their time and inconvenience.  Not for their eggs.  And the American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM) has guidelines regarding donor compensation which clearly states that compensation in excess of $10,000 to egg donors is never appropriate.  So the idea that Annie would “sell her eggs” for $20,000 would for one be illegal, and secondly, (in regards to the compensation) would be highly unethical.

Through the next couple of episodes we learn that Annie (because of her family’s financial troubles) has accepted the $20,000 offer and her boss would transfer her compensation to her bank account that week – which would be the week she was starting injections for the cycle.  Annie was then handed a brown paper bag with syringes in it, by her boss!  They reviewed some simple instructions and Annie was told that she could come to her boss if she needed help with the injections.  No doctor’s appointments.  No instructions from a medical facility. Nothing.

In the REAL world of egg donation, donors are screened long before they are given injections to start a cycle.  That screening will include psychological evaluations, physical examinations, infectious disease screening, genetic testing, drug testing, and more.  Only after a potential donor passes these panels of tests is she approved to begin a donation cycle.  And before a clinic will even think about asking a donor to start injections for a cycle, they will make sure that the recipient and the egg donor have entered into a legal agreement with each other.  And when the clinic is ready to have the donor start her medication, the injections are given to the donor by the physician’s office or mailed to the donor by a pharmacy, which ensures the integrity of the medication.

Annie goes on to tell her mother about her plans to “sell her eggs”, (after Annie tried to hide it from her, but was caught.)  Annie’s mother prohibited her from following through with the process even after Annie explained how the compensation would financially help the family.  Later in the episode, another character gives birth, and Annie and her mother are at the hospital and holding the newborn.  While looking at the beautiful newborn baby, Annie realizes the implications of being a donor. She and her mother have a bonding moment where they together decided that it is not the right decision.  And that’s how it was left.

In the REAL world of egg donation, the donor would have been psychologically screened, and these implications would have been addressed long before the donor actually started the donation cycle.

Now, it is possible that the writers will keep the storyline alive and follow the recipients through their search for a new donor.  I only hope this is the case if the writers will be more responsible and accurately portray egg donation for what it is.  I am the director of an international egg donor program that facilitates mostly anonymous egg donation cycles.  While Annie’s donation would have been considered a “known” or “directed” donation and therefore procedures would be slightly different, the items I have addressed were still grossly misrepresented.

But, alas – I will admit that when the next episode airs on October 25th at 8:00pm standard time, I will be tuning in.  Partly to watch the drama unfold.  Will Ivy and Dixson get back together?  Will Silver and Naomi tell the truth about Mr. Canon?  And partly, to see if the writers will redeem themselves and more accurately portray what the REAL world of egg donation looks like.

Stephanie Goldman-Levich is a Co-Founder of Family Creations, LLC. (www.familycreations.net)  She and her business partner Julia Alkire-McConnell founded Family Creations in 2006.  Stephanie and Julia have been named two of America’s Top Entrepreneurs Under the age of 30 by Inc. Magazine and have been featured in various publications including Valley Life, and ForbesWoman.

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16 year old Allegra, and her twin brother Matt were conceived with the help of an egg donor. Allegra and Matt’s parents have always been open with them about how they were conceived and in this video Allegra discusses her thoughts and feelings about what her unique story means to her.

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Pioneer of IVF awarded 2010 Nobel Prize!

by Admin on October 5, 2010

Professor Robert Edwards, the British pioneer of IVF treatment was awarded the 2010 Nobel Prize in Medicine.

Professor Robert Edwards, the British pioneer of IVF

British biologist Robert G. Edwards, whose contributions to the technology of in vitro fertilization have made more than 4 million couples parents, has been awarded the 2010 Nobel Prize in physiology or medicine.

Working with Dr. Patrick Steptoe, Edwards, now 85, developed the techniques for removing mature eggs from a woman’s ovaries, fertilizing them in test tubes and inducing them to begin dividing before implanting them back in the mother.

Their efforts yielded the July 25, 1978, birth of Louise Brown, the first “test tube baby,” both demonstrating the success and the safety of the technique and bringing hope to infertile people all over the world. An estimated 10% of all couples are unable to conceive naturally.

Edwards, an emeritus professor at Cambridge University, is in failing health and was unable to accept the early morning call from Sweden’s Nobel Committee. “I spoke to his wife, and she was delighted, and she was sure he would be delighted too,” the committee’s secretary, Goran Hansson, told a Stockholm news conference.

In a statement released by Bourn Hall, the Cambridge in vitro fertilization, or IVF, clinic founded by Edwards and Steptoe, Ruth Edwards said, “The family is thrilled and delighted that Professor Edwards has been awarded the Nobel Prize for medicine for the development of IVF. The success of this research has touched the lives of millions of people worldwide, and his dedication and single-minded determination despite opposition from many quarters has led to successful application of his pioneering research.”

Steptoe was not named as a recipient of the $1.5-million prize because Nobel rules require that an honoree be alive at the time of the award. He died in 1988, 13 years before New York’s Lasker Foundation awarded Edwards its top award, which is often viewed as a precursor to the Nobel.

Critics have questioned why it has taken so long to honor the pair’s achievements. Some suspect that it is due in part to the Vatican’s disapproval of the technique because it physically separates the conjugal act and conception. Many other religious groups also initially expressed concerns about the ethics of IVF, and Britain’s Medical Research Council refused to fund the experiments, spurring Edwards and Steptoe to obtain private grants.

Most such groups have since changed their positions, and the Catholic Church remains the only major group opposed to IVF. In an e-mail statement Monday, Monsignor Ignacio Carrasco de Paula, head of the Pontifical Academy for Life, said that the award “is not completely out of place.” But he criticized the research for opening the door to the destruction of embryos and the creation of a commercial market for human eggs. He also said the research raised questions because it did not address the underlying problem of infertility, but only circumvented it.

Edwards began experimenting with IVF in the mid-1950s after receiving his doctorate from the University of Edinburgh in Scotland. Other researchers already had shown that rabbit eggs could be successfully inseminated in the test tube, leading to viable offspring, and Edwards initially assumed that human eggs would be little different.

It turned out, however, that human eggs had a very different life cycle from that of rabbit eggs. Over the next 20 years, Edwards made a number of fundamental discoveries, clarifying how human eggs matured, how different hormones regulated their maturation and at which times the eggs could be inseminated successfully. He also determined the conditions under which sperm were activated and had the capacity to fertilize eggs.

By 1969, he had successfully fertilized an egg in a test tube — or, more accurately, in a laboratory petri dish. But the egg would not proceed beyond the first cellular division. Edwards reasoned that the egg needed to mature in the womb. He contacted Steptoe, a gynecologist who was one of the pioneers in laparoscopy, in which a thin telescope inserted through the vagina is used to observe the ovaries and manipulate eggs.

After much further work, the pair performed the first successful IVF on Lesley Brown, who came to the clinic after she and her husband, John, had tried for nine years to have a child. Baby Louise was born, and a new world was opened.

“Louise’s birth signified so much,” Edwards said at her 25th birthday celebration in 2003. “We had to fight a lot of opposition, but we had concepts that we thought would work, and they worked.”

Louise recently had her own child, the old-fashioned way. In a statement released by Bourn Hall, she said, “It’s fantastic news; me and Mum are so glad that one of the pioneers of IVF has been given the recognition he deserves. We hold Bob in great affection and are delighted to send our personal congratulations to him and his family at this time.”

An estimated 142,000 IVF procedures are performed each year in the U.S. at a cost of about $4 billion. The success rate is about 1 in every 5 procedures, about the same rate as conventional attempts to become pregnant.

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Family Creations is gearing up to addend ASRM’s (American Society for Reproductive Medicine’s) annual conference in Denver, Colorado! Co-Founders Stephanie Goldman-Levich and Julia Alkire will be attending various courses to learn about the latest advancements in third party reproduction. They look forward to taking in everything ASRM has to offer, visiting with colleagues from all over the country, and also participating in ASRM’s inaugural 5k run/walk for reproductive health!

The world of reproductive medicine is always changing. New advancements are made, legislature changes, etc. Family Creation is devoted to constantly learning and growing, and staying on top of new developments which in turn allows us to pass on this knowledge and provide the very best service to our intended parents, egg donors and surrogates.

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On a beachFamily Creations is proud to announce that we have expanded our services to include both egg donation and surrogacy! Through extensive marketing and recruitment, we already have a handful of wonderful approved surrogates (some of them previous surrogates) who have been fully evaluated and are just waiting to be matched with intended parents. Family Creations is one of the only programs that require surrogates to have preliminary psychological screening, and a home visit by our staff prior to being matched with intended parents.

Please contact us today if you are interested in becoming a surrogate, or if you are considering surrogacy as an avenue to parenthood. We are honored to assist you through this incredibly personal and rewarding process.

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Myth Busters on Egg Donation

by Admin on July 19, 2010

There are many misconceptions surrounding egg donation. Elaine Gordon and Peggy Orlin, both mental health professionals specializing in third party reproduction shed some light on some of these myths.

Myth Busters on Egg Donation

by Elaine R. Gordon, Ph.D. and Peggy Orlin, MFT, Members of the AFA Mental Health Advisory Council

Myths surrounding gamete donation, like urban legends, are told and retold as truths when, in fact, they have little or no basis in reality. Most of the time they are false but some of the time there is an element of truth which serves not only to scare and confuse intended parents but to fuel the myth. Gamete donation practices are rapidly changing due to the incredible advances being made in the field of reproductive medicine but the social and psychological implications of this area lag far behind. These myths are misrepresentations of what we know to be true and they need to be dispelled.
The most often cited myths in gamete donation are:

1. I won’t bond with my baby if there is no genetic connection.

FALSE
Nothing could be further from the truth. Nevertheless, this is a fear often heard from those who have been advised to consider gamete donation as a family building option. Emotional connectedness emanates from one’s heart and does not reside within one’s chromosomes. Look around at those you love in your life…your spouse, best friend, partner, cat, dog….are you genetically related?  Bonds are forged on the ability to be open and allow one to be vulnerable in a relationship with another. It is this emotional availability that connects one individual to another and not one’s genes. This is not to say genes are unimportant because they are the seeds of who we are but they are not the determinants of whom we will love and bond. Societies have been historically organized in family units based on bloodlines simply because it just made sense. Globalization is changing all that and we are seeing a shift away from the biogenetic family to a more all-encompassing notion of family that includes non-genetic members. If you want to bond, you have to trust that you will and just let it happen.

2. Donors are donating SOLELY for the money.

FALSE
While it may be true that donors do want the compensation, this is definitely not the complete truth. Most donors have a personal commitment to the donation process. Some because they have witnessed a friend or a family member struggle with infertility as well as experience the joy of a subsequent success. Others see the donation as a way to give back; they tend to be young women who volunteer in their communities and see helping others as an important personal responsibility. There are some that report that donors may have a need to come to terms with unresolved guilt from a previous abortion and choose to donate in order to make-up for what they did. Finally, there are donors that do no see children in their personal futures and see donation as a means of “continuing on” in the genetic sense. Yes, financial compensation is a motivator but it is only one of the many factors that draw women to become egg donors. The altruistic component weighs just as heavily in a donor decision to donate. Donors are evaluated in many ways and on many levels. One aspect of the screening is to assess ‘need’ from ‘want’. While $25k in student loans points to a person’s drive and ambition to achieve, the same debt on a credit card debt may speak to impulsivity and irresponsibility. The donor demonstrating the latter would be considered an inappropriate donor and not pass screening. Donors understand the implications of their donation and their motivation to donate includes both an altruistic as well as a financial component.

3. Donors lie on their applications in order to “pass” screening.

FALSE
Donors, in general, are not inclined to lie on their application but because we can never say never, a system has been put in place in an effort to identity those that might be less than forthright when filling out their donor application.  For the most part donors are well meaning individuals who are donating for all the right reasons and are also grateful for the added benefit of being compensated for their efforts. They are not doing it solely for the compensation nor are their efforts totally altruistic. Legitimate agencies and medical practices offering up donors require them to undergo a thorough and comprehensive evaluation, which serves to weed out inappropriate applicants. There is a checks and balance system built into the process that substantiates and verifies the information donors provide. Information is gathered through an in-depth interview, psychological testing, genetic history, and medical screening. It allows the evaluator to cross check information and assess the veracity of the application. It is important to restate that most donors do not deliberately falsify their applications.

4. My partner will feel more entitled as the parent since he/she is genetically connected to the child.
FALSE
The answer is both yes and also no.  If your relationship with your partner is based on competition and rivalry, it is very possible one partner will use his/her genetic tie to assert their sense of entitlement. However, if you and your partner operate as a team and one does not ‘one-up’ the other, entitlement becomes a non-issue. It is important that the genetic parent does not use the genetic tie as a weapon against the other and that the non-genetic parent behaves in an entitled fashion and has confidence in their entitlement to parent. The one caveat here is that despite the parents’ feelings about who does or does not have a stronger hold on the child, it is the child who will dispel this myth. Children want to be loved, nurtured, and cared for. The parent who meets these basic needs is the one that will be reinforced by the child and this will have nothing to do with who has the genetic connection with the child. A child will respond to the attentive parent not the neglectful one; they will bond and love the one that is there to attend to their needs. Parents who are a team will get the lion’s share of their child’s love and devotion.

5. The donor will come back and interfere with my life-she might even lay claim to my child.

FALSE
Donors are not donating because they are interested in becoming parents. If they want to become a parent, they certainly do not need us nor do they need to go through the rigors of a donation process. Donors and recipients have two opposing perspectives on fertility and donation. On the one hand, a donor is a fertile being who has never struggled with the trials and tribulations of infertility; they have confidence in their fertility and view the donation process as easy and interesting. On the other hand, recipients have usually been beaten down by their infertility plight and look at donation as the end of the line. It is difficult for recipients to grasp the idea that donors are not interested in any ongoing relationship with you or your child. This does not mean they don’t care or are without feelings. Donors donate for a variety of reasons. There is no angst over failed cycles or repeated disappointments. Donors assume fertility whereas recipients assume infertility. It is difficult for the intended parent to grasp the ease with which donors can donate because their experience in trying to have a child has been thwarted again and again. Donors donate with the sole intention of helping someone else have a child. They have no interest in participating in the child’s life, as they do not see their donation efforts as equated with parenthood. Ask any donor and you will hear the same sentiment, “I am not the parent!”.

6. Donors will donate more than the recommended number of times leading to unintended consanguinity.

FALSE
Consanguinity is the state of being related by blood or descended from a common ancestor. It relates to ‘being of the same blood’ and the feared consequence of donors donating too many times. Inadvertent consanguinity resulting from egg donation is possible if a donor donates two or more times and if the resulting children are unaware of their genetic histories. Statistically we need to remember that consanguinity is highly unlikely.  In order to minimize this small but real risk, guidelines have been established by the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, which have advised a limit of no more than twenty-five pregnancies per sperm donor in an effort to diminish the risk of inadvertent consanguinity. This is much higher than the six cycles recommended for egg donors.  In general, donors are bright and thoughtful young women who have been counseled on the medical and psychological aspects of donation including how many times they should donate. They are also made aware of the risk that donation may pose to their own health. Most donors are disinclined to donate more times than what is advised and are unwilling to do anything that will put their own health at risk.  Therefore, unintended consanguinity is an unlikely scenario. Donors are proud of what they are doing and are excited about helping others have children. They have no intention of endangering anyone’s health…not their own and not the children they are helping create.

7. Every young woman who applies to be a donor is accepted.

FALSE
Donor applicants are required to undergo a rigorous evaluation process that includes a medical, a psychological, and legal contracts. Only about ten percent of potential donors pass muster and are accepted as suitable participants in an egg donation arrangement. They may fall out or be disqualified at any point in the screening process. The donor evaluative process usually starts with an in-depth written application of about fifteen to twenty pages in length. Along with this questionnaire are photos of donors and their families, with some programs requesting childhood pictures. After careful review of this initial questionnaire a psychological interview is completed by a licensed mental health practitioner. In addition, a psychological test battery is administered. Many programs also require a meeting with a genetic counselor in an effort to assess genetic risk. A thorough medical screening is completed by the treating physician, which includes blood work and a physical exam. Also, potential donors must be non-smokers, free of infectious diseases, non-drug users and have the flexibility in their schedule to meet the appointment demands of an IVF cycle. Only screened, qualified, enthusiastic, organized, responsible women get through the rigors of this process.


8. My family will reject my child if they know that I used donor eggs.

MOSTLY FALSE
This is a complicated question that has no “one size fits all” answer. Families will have different responses when it comes to the acceptance or rejection of a child born from a donor gamete. Some families will embrace the child without a second thought while others will not. Determinants of whether or not a child will be accepted or rejected depend on a multitude of factors including, family values, religious beliefs, psychological health, cultural biases, and level of family dysfunction. Taking all these factors into consideration will guide you in deciding what to share and what to keep private. If you are concerned that your family members will reject your child merely based on his/her genetic make-up, it might be useful to examine your fear and understand why you feel that way. Is your family really likely to reject your child? Are you projecting your own fear of not loving your child onto them?  If after making an honest assessment of your family’s reaction to your child and concluding that rejection is a real threat, there are some steps for you to take. Some parents choose to tell their family about the donation after the child is born…when they are all “in love” with the child.  Others choose to tell the child and not inform the other family members, keeping that information private until the child chooses to disclose. Once you have bonded with your child, the issue of family rejection will become moot and your worries will dissipate.
(For a discussion on disclosure to children there is an excellent article in the AFA archives on Talking to your children about Ovum Donation. It is a “must read”.)

Elaine R. Gordon, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist with a specialty in infertility, child development, reproductive medicine, and third party family building. Her clinical work involves individual therapy, group process for couples and individuals, medical staff training and third party evaluations. Her involvement with egg donation and surrogacy programs has stimulated interest in issues surrounding secrecy, disclosure and anonymity in third party arrangements. As an outgrowth of her work she has become increasingly concerned about the ethical and moral dilemmas involved in reproductive medicine. Dr. Gordon is the author of “Mommy, Did I Grow in Your Tummy? Where some babies come from, a children’s book dedicated to explaining a child’s unique reproductive beginnings.


Peggy Orlin, MS, MFT, is a Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in the emotional aspects of infertility and third party family building. She is in private practice in Berkeley and San Francisco. In addition, she counsels donors, gestational carriers and recipients at Pacific Fertility Center. Her professional associations include the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, where she was a former Chair of the Mental Health Professional Group. She is on the Mental Health Advisory Board of the AFA.

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Co-Founder, Stephanie Goldman-Levich of Family Creations wrote an article that was published on fertilityauthority.com. She shares her personal adoption story, and why she believes that it is love, not blood, that makes a family. 

“I’ve Always Known I Was Adopted”

By Stephanie Goldman-Levich, April 14, 2010

I started Family Creations — an international egg donor program that helps match intended parents with egg donors — with the firm belief that families can come in all shapes and sizes, that they can be created in any number of ways, that the way it usually works isn’t always the way it has to. I believe it’s love — not blood — that makes a family, a belief that is very personal to me and my story. Because 28 years ago, I was adopted.

Twenty-eight years ago, an 18-year old woman named Amy contacted an adoption agency. She found out she was pregnant and knew she couldn’t give her baby the life it deserved, no matter how much she wanted to. She decided very courageously to put me up for adoption. When she contacted the agency, they asked what kind of criteria she was looking for in an adoptive family.

“I don’t have any criteria,” she said. “I only want my baby to go to the people who have been waiting the longest.”

Across town, another family was waiting for a call. My adoptive mom was 24 years old when she first met my dad. They fell madly in love. One day, my mom arrived home to find my dad there eagerly awaiting her arrival. Upon seeing her, he knelt down on one knee with a beautiful engagement ring in hand. But she had kept a secret from him, one that had haunted her, one that always tempered the excitement she felt about their future together.

When my mom was 13 years old, she had a severe infection that resulted in a hysterectomy. Before she ever had the chance to even think about it, she was robbed of the ability to have children of her own.

She hadn’t told my dad, out of fear that he would reject her. But on that fateful day, she had little choice. She told tell him the horrible truth she’d had to live with for so long. His response? “Sue, I love you. That is what matters. That’s the only thing that matters. And one day, we will adopt. We will have a family. And we will love our children as if they were our own. Because they will be.”

They got married and, four years later, they applied to adopt. After filling out all the paperwork, after providing photos and stories of themselves, they were told that it would only be a matter of time. And so they waited. And waited. And waited. Nearly a year went by, until the adoption agency they were waiting to hear from received that call from Amy, asking that the couple that waited the longest raise her child.

In that moment, with that call, before I was even born, I had a family.

I’m always asked how I found out that I was adopted. Especially working in donor egg field, future parents selecting an egg donor often ask me if they should tell their children that they were conceived by use of a donor.

I always advocate for full disclosure. My parents introduced me to the idea of adoption before I even understood what the word meant. They would say things like, “Mommy and Daddy wanted a baby so badly, and Mommy couldn’t have a baby, so a wonderful woman helped us have you.” As I grew older, it was easy to wrap my head around the concept, and to feel comfortable with what it meant. When I’m asked the question, “When did you find out you were adopted?” my answer is always the same:

“I’ve always known.”

There are few decisions more personal than the decision to tell your child that its story isn’t the same as the other children. What my parents did for me may not have been the only right way, but it was unconditionally right.

And our relationship, all these years later, is as strong as it is because they have always been so honest and open with me, and because they’ve let me understand who I am and where I came from.

They made me who I am today. They made me family.

Families do come in all shapes and sizes. That I knew with certainty as a child. And as a fertility consultant, I know it with even more conviction today.

Love is not about how a family is created. It’s about everything that comes after that.

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Stephanie Goldman-Levich is a Co-Founder of Family Creations, LLC. She and her business partner Julia Alkire-McConnell founded Family Creations in 2006.

Stephanie and Julia have been named two of America’s Top Entrepreneurs Under the age of 30 by Inc. Magazine and have been featured in various publications including Valley Life, and ForbesWoman.

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Link to article: http://www.fertilityauthority.com/articles/i-was-adopted-its-love-not-blood-makes-family

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Illuminations 2010

by Admin on April 13, 2010

C0-Founders Stephanie Goldman-Levich and Julia Alkire at Illuminations 2010

C0-Founders Stephanie Goldman-Levich and Julia Alkire at Illuminations 2010

The American Fertility Association is a wonderful non-profit organization. Through educational programs they work to provide information about reproductive health, how to prevent infertility whenever possible, and also offer support and professional information to those that are struggling with infertility and family building.

Every year, they host an event called Illuminations where supporters gather with a common goal in mind; to raise money for such an important organization. Family Creations is a proud supporter and sponsor of the AFA and Illuminations and is so pleased to learn that the event helped raise over $100,000.

Dr. Guy Ringler, M.D. of California Fertility Partners and Will Halm, Esq. of National Fertility Law Center were honored for their outstanding work in the reproductive community and were presented awards by Holly Robinson Peete and the Creator of Desperate Housewives Marc Cherry. As the AFA’s National Spokesperson, Brenda Strong of Desperate Housewives led the evening’s awards and speeches.

To learn more about the American Fertility Association please visit: http://www.theafa.org/

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